"I am" are two of the most
powerful words we can use. They declare to the universe who we are
as a person, as a soul, and determine the effect we will have as we
interact with others. More than a simple adjective, the words that
follow define how we see are selves and thereby sets the pattern for
how others will both see and treat us.
I am beautiful as opposed to I am fat
ignites the beauty within and allows it to shine. True beauty
doesn't come from what we look like, the clothes we wear, the car we
drive, or any of our other possessions. It comes from within.
Marilyn Monroe is still considered one of the sexist and most
beautiful women in the world, yet she frequently wore a size 14. She
could turn her "sexist" on and off by just changing her
perception of herself. When she wanted alone time, she became
Barbara Jean and she was anonymous in a crowd. However, when she
became Marilyn she could turn on pilots flying at ten thousand feet.
It was all a matter of attitude and perception. Other people did not
have the power to create the change. Marilyn was the only one who
could defined herself. It was this definition that others saw.
In my own life, there was a schism
between what I believed and what I thought. I couldn't understand
why there was such a difference between the image I saw in the mirror
and the one that manifested in photographs. The woman I saw in the
mirror was beautiful and happy. In pictures, I looked like an old
sourpuss. The mirror reflected who I am. The pictures revealed what
I thought of myself. Like so many I could Photoshop and change the
picture. But it would not change how I saw myself. I'm the only one
who can make the image in the mirror truly real by believing that I
am beautiful--which I am.
Beauty is only the most obvious
manifestation of the power we have within us. No one else can give
or take away our ability to define ourselves. It is something we do
every moment of every day whether not we believe we have the power to
do so. Other people merely a reflect back the image we ourselves
have created.
In reality, we create what we believe.
The only question is how we will use this ability. That is the
difference between successful people and those who see themselves as
victims. Those who flourish firmly know life is full of challenges
that they are more than capable of successfully meeting. They have
the confidence to believe that they control their destiny. They've
grown their roots deep into that knowledge. When challenges blow
through their lives like the mighty oak they have the power to stand
fast and tall, because they have well rooted their lives in their own
positive support system.
Victims, on the other hand, believe
that life is something that happens to them. They see themselves as
powerless. Instead of a tree they see themselves as leaves in the
wind being blown about by the whims of others, fate, or the Divine.
Like leaves on a tree, when they are attached to others they appear
alive, strong, and vibrant. But as with breaking the connection
between the leaf and the tree causes the leaf to wither and dry,
those people, whose confidence comes from others loose their vitality
and power.
They become fearful, angry, and
resentful when they are separated from what they thought was their
support system. They fight to reestablish the connection with the
original or with a new support system. Until they reconnect they
will be fearful, angry, and resentful, because they feel powerless.
If however, they changed their perspective from the leaf to an acorn,
they could grow their own roots and become a tree instead of being
just a leaf. In doing so, they recreate their lives and manifest
more positive end results.
This does not mean that we must stand
alone. A grove of oaks with their roots intertwined is more powerful
than solitary tree. But a support system is only as powerful as its
weakest member. It is this reason that strong and confident people
reach out to one another. They know that by working together and
sharing their resources they are more able to successfully achieve
their goals. It's not what you have that is important; it is what
you believe about yourself that will attract like minds. Whether an
acorn or a tall tree, it is your positive energy--your confidence,
your surety, your innovation, your belief in yourself that will
attract who and what you need to be successful.
A leaf is not a tree, no matter how
many times it claims to be so. The next breeze proves who we are. A
tree will trust in it's roots. An acorn will dig them deeper. A
leaf will allow itself to be blown away. Just like no one else can
define us, we cannot define others. This power cannot be taught or
given. It is grown from within. It is the light that only shines
from the inside out. It is the passion that ignites when we change
the core beliefs about ourselves. Every moment of every day we
decide to be an acorn or a leaf. It is never too late to become an
acorn. It is never to late to believe in yourself. All it takes is
saying, "I am ready".
" Instant Karma is going to get you."
John Lennon
Have you ever met someone and suddenly felt love or hate? Yet you couldn't remember them. Would you want to remember? Would you want to know if it could save your life?
Never Can Say Good-bye is a paranormal thriller feature film--If you were given a second chance, would you choose love...or revenge?
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